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How to Deal With Unforgiveness
In the aftermath of hurt, follow these steps to protect your relationships.
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21 Then Peter came and said to Him, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?" 22 Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. (Matthew 18:21-22)
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God’s Word tells us to forgive those who hurt us. So let’s identify practical ways to confront unforgiveness head-on:
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Take it seriously. Unforgiveness shouldn’t be dismissed as unimportant.
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Assume responsibility. Don’t blame others for your actions.
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Confess it honestly. Be specific with God about what you feel, and acknowledge that unforgiveness is sin.
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Lay down your anger (Ephesians 4:31-32). Unless you deal with your resentment, bitterness can reenter your life later on.
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Pray for the one who wronged you (Matthew 5:44). Though this may feel impossible, it’s important. Praying is a choice that can impact relationships and change your outlook.
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Ask that individual to forgive you. If the other person knows you’ve been harboring bitterness, consider asking for his or her forgiveness. Sometimes reaching out in this way can be a step toward peace.
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Don’t allow Satan to throw you back into bitterness. Once the matter is resolved, watch out for stray thoughts that could stir up memories of how the other person hurt you.
Go through these steps every time you are mistreated, and watch for God to work.
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​By Dr. Charles Stanley​​​​​​​​​​​
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